Feeling Sorry for Yourself & the Special Needs Parent
During our recent trip to the Virgin Islands my husband had an experience I thought I would share to encourage.
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Lesson: Focus on what you have and not on what you don’t have. There is always someone with a worse circumstance to deal with. Figure out how to live your lif, rest in your normal and remain grateful.
Have you ever felt sorry for yourself? Let me know when in the comments below and also tell me what you have to be grateful for. Be well. ā¤
Roshini Cope
Roshini Cope, aka Glamazini, is a life coach and video creator who gained a following for her natural hair tutorials, which evolved into authentic personal stories of healing with a consistent dash of humor. She is a black woman healing helping other black women heal, expand their self-awareness, reclaim their joy, and create the life they want. Work with Roshini š¤āØš¤
5 Comments
Talisa
As a teen in high school I started off my time there experiencing a lot of bullying and other types of ‘abuse’ that is sometimes typical of the average high school experience. You could say I went into it thinking all the other girls would be just as nice as my friends and I in middle school (primary school here) were to each other. It was a rude awakening when I was met with a lot of hostility right off the bat, I wasn’t used to it. So the more I was bullied, the more I ran away from school. I avoided classes, avoided reading in class which I loved to do. Avoiding school led to bad grades, bad grades led to a less-than-perfect college experience, where I also experienced some bullying. You could say the effects of a few years followed me beyond those years because I wanted to ‘escape’ rather than confront. I felt like the victim because I’d walked into high school harmless and happy-go-lucky and still became somewhat of a ‘target’ for whatever reason. It didn’t help much that the consequences followed me even though the people didn’t. I had to begin making a decision not to live my life as the girl that was bullied, to leave it behind me and get back to living my life.
I am grateful for finally coming to a place where I’m not trying to change who I am to avoid being attacked by people. It has been a slow process.
glamazini
“Iām not trying to change who I am to avoid being attacked by people.” << This is a powerful and peaceful place to be. Thanks for sharing your story, all the best. <3
Erika
Thank you for this video. I will probably have to watch it again, at other times. I have a special needs son and its not that I feel sorry for myself, it’s more that I blame myself for it. He suffered a neonatal stroke and the residual affects means that he has weakness on his left side because of the damage to the right side of his brain. He also suffers seizure that scare me each time he has one. He has had occaputional, physical and speech therapy But he is here. He is a very persistent, quite stubborn and loving 5 year old that loves playing, books and the Disney Jr. channel. I was actually told that he would be extremely disabled by one of his neonatologist during his 3 weeks in the NICU, but that hasn’t happened. I wish for him to be an independent man who lives his life the way he wants. It can be a struggle and I fight and I get tired but not knocked out. I have to remain strong for him.
glamazini
I understand everything you posted, everything. You are not alone and your thoughts are normal. I did a post and video about this very thing last year, please check it out: http://www.glamazini.com/dont-blame-yourself-moms-special-needs-kids/ I can’t say I blame myself much lately but I think this particular assignment of parent to a child with special needs comes with an enduring deep sorrow no matter how you slice it. May God allow disruptive rays of sunlight to burst through the understandable clouds in your days until you feel a peace that only He can give. If you need a reminder just look straight into your son’s eyes. š Thanks for commenting. <3
BigTickles
Yes, I do. I just can’t let go of the paranoia I feel when thinking about my son’s future. There are so many questions / scenarios I allow my mind to go through. I had to start praying for God to protect my mind because I found myself not living in the present. I won’t get these moments back. I now try to focus on my son’s abilities and not his disabilities. I know that his future will be bright!